Wednesday, June 22

Sexuality

Never have I ever added a quote to my quote wall from an article online, until today. Sarah Hepola, thank you so much for your insightful comments. "...the fear of vulnerability is part of the price of real connection."

A little over two years ago a relationship which I thought was the last I would have to search for ended abruptly. At the time the devastation presented me with what seemed to be the only two options: use drugs (including alcohol) to silence my pain; or use exercise and education to distract me. I chose the latter.

Fast forward to the present. I find the sexual escapades of my youth are now ghosts of a past that barely seems recognizable because of who I have become. I yearn for intellectual and emotional stimulation before any thoughts of sexual interaction even enter my mind. Physical attractions and infatuations still occur. However, my focus has shifted from the temporary happiness of a sexual conquest, to the lasting joy of an intimate interaction with another person who understands the internal universe which is my true identity.

Since I am a heterosexual male in a patriarchal society I am expected to behave like many of my other male counterparts- i.e. satisfy my “natural” desire. Too often friends of mine say, “what you have not had sex in how many months? Why? We need to get you to a bar.” This is emasculating and disrespectful. The words convey a hurtful meaning of damn, you need some help- and shows a lack of understanding that my lack of sexual activity is a choice, not a condition of life imposed upon me because of unattractive qualities of my personality, or physical characteristics.

Statements like these also show an extreme disrespect for women- as if women are objects to possess, for the benefit and entertainment of men. This idea has persisted in human culture for too long, and I cannot find any logic that would lead to such an irrational conclusion.

This brings me to female comics, such as the terrible Amy Schumer. She, and others like her are terrible role models for women. This is what I hear behind all her theatrics, “Get drunk, be a slut, show some legs, and some cleavage- feminism!” To me this is the same side of the coin as those male friends of mine who want to have the subservient wife (she is selling the same patriarchal dogma- if a man/woman you are interested in perceives you as a promiscuous person who is a drink, convincing them of your intelligence and other positive qualities is going to be an uphill battle).

I am not saying not to engage in those activities while in your youth. Doing so will allow you to find you levels of comfort. That said, do not feel like you have to be like the Amy Schumers, or many of those male sluts you know, in order to be you. I know how difficult it can be to try to maintain your own identity in sea full of extremes. The spectrum of sexuality ranges from the prudes to the sluts, and everywhere in between. Find where you fit in that spectrum and let people hear your voice. It is the only way other people who are scared will overcome their fears. Cheers.

The Glass

You can choose to see the glass half empty or half full; or you can see the glass as a tool to create something new. Cheers. (:

Tuesday, June 21

Music as Biology: Summing Up

Coursera Online is an awesome place to learn, for anyone who does not have the funds, or for those who do not want to be indebted in order to learn. I wish you all the best.

coursera.org


Music was created as an expression of the perception of the composer, in regard to our shared human condition. Initially, our natural biological functions limited our use of sound in music (speech and sensory organs). The advancement/evolution of technology, and our inevitable dependence on the technology we create, stimulates the attraction to industrial, mechanical, and other forms of non-biological sounds, as these sounds become more prominent and "normal" throughout human civilization. Music is an extension of our desire to understand the universe, and in searching for the answers of our external environments we begin to answer the questions about our internal universes. The biologic composition of our bodies sets the limits of our music only as far as our technology extends those limitations and parameters. I am overjoyed I took this course, because I love to experiment with music theory, and the limitations of human hearing. Cheers.

Thursday, June 2

Suicide

SUICIDE

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline
1-800-273-TALK (1-800-273-8255)
[United States ONLY]

Today is another day of mourning. Someone I once knew, who was respected by all that knew her, decided it was time to leave this world. The consequences resulting from her decision will impact those close to her, as well as those of us who were influenced by experiences we shared with her.

“I think suicide is sort of like cancer was 50 years ago. People don't want to talk about it, they don't want to know about it. People are frightened of it, and they don't understand, when actually these issues are medically treatable.”
-Judy Collins

Let’s start with some definitions:


Suicide
·         Death caused by self-directed injurious behavior with an intent to die as a result of the behavior.
Suicide attempt
·         A non-fatal, self-directed, potentially injurious behavior with an intent to die as a result of the behavior; might not result in injury.
Suicidal ideation
·         Thinking about, considering, or planning suicide.

“There is but one truly serious philosophical problem and that is suicide.”
-Albert Camus

The stigmatization of  people with mental health issues ends now! Too often people do not seek the help they desperately need  to avoid being labeled as someone who cannot handle the stressors of life- psychological and  physiological. “Broken”, “Disturbed”, “Insane”, “Brain Dead”,  “Handicapped”, “Stupid”; these are just a few of the labels used to demonize someone with a mental illness, and to worsen their mental health.

“They tell us that suicide is the greatest piece of cowardice... that suicide is wrong; when it is quite obvious that there is nothing in the world to which every man has a more unassailable title than to his own life and person.”
-Arthur Schopenhauer
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline
1-800-273-TALK (1-800-273-8255)
[United States ONLY]

Here is a link to 250 labels used for people who are afflicted by a mental health illness published by the National Center for Biotechnology Information, National Library of Medicine, National Institute of Health:

Why has suicide become an increasingly popular way to die?  Statistics do not lie. Younger and younger people choose to end their lives, to end the suffering they endure.

“It is always consoling to think of suicide: in that way one gets through many a bad night.”
-Friedrich Nietzsche



Here is a link to the CDC 10 leading causes of death by Age Group, United States- 2014


·        Suicide is the 10th leading cause of death among Americans.

As you can see Suicide was the second leading cause of death amongst 10-34 year olds. To put this in perspective this would include anyone born from 1982-2006. For anyone between the ages of 35-54 (1972-1981) it is the fourth highest leading cause of death. Why?

“Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.”
-Phil Donahue




National Suicide Prevention Lifeline
1-800-273-TALK (1-800-273-8255)
[United States ONLY]

According to the CDC:
Risk Factors
·         Family history of suicide
·         Family history of child maltreatment
·         Previous suicide attempt(s)
·         History of mental disorders, particularly clinical depression
·         History of alcohol and substance abuse
·         Feelings of hopelessness
·         Impulsive or aggressive tendencies
·         Cultural and religious beliefs (e.g., belief that suicide is noble resolution of a personal dilemma)
·         Local epidemics of suicide
·         Isolation, a feeling of being cut off from other people
·         Barriers to accessing mental health treatment
·         Loss (relational, social, work, or financial)
·         Physical illness
·         Easy access to lethal methods
·         Unwillingness to seek help because of the stigma attached to mental health and substance abuse disorders or to suicidal thoughts
“Cutting, and suicide, two very different symptoms of the same problem, are gaining on us. I personally don't know a single person who doesn't know at least two of these victims personally.”
-Pink

“Fame is no sanctuary from the passing of youth... suicide is much easier and more acceptable in Hollywood than growing old gracefully.”
-Julie Burchill



National Suicide Prevention Lifeline
1-800-273-TALK (1-800-273-8255)
[United States ONLY]
To answer the question as to why, I think an evaluation of federal government spending will help us.
https://media.nationalpriorities.org/uploads/discretionary_spending_pie,_2015_enacted.png





National Suicide Prevention Lifeline
1-800-273-TALK (1-800-273-8255)
[United States ONLY]

The federal government spends about six percent on Medicare and Health combined. Exactly how much funds federal, state, and local organizations receive and use specifically for mental health are debatable, due to the unreliability of sources, and the lack of a system to adequately track such information. The estimates I have found range anywhere between 1%-5%; i.e. 3-5 billion dollars. Some go as high as 7 billion, but I cannot verify the accuracy of this information. The entities in the following list are where I found the above:
World Health Organization, National Alliance of the Mentally Ill, Penn State University, Agency for Healthcare Research, just to name a few.

There is too much emphasis on Military spending; this much is blatantly obvious. The tools of conflict and fear have been used to persuade the citizens of this country to be idle while the military-industrial complex cripples other industry, undermines our educational institutions, and degrades the mental health of the citizens of this country.

It is not surprise to me that people who were born after 1980 are more susceptible to symptoms, and are more likely to choose suicide over life, than those of previous generations. Why is this? The United States has been at War for most of the last century. What is different?

Ethics. The wars of the first half of the century involved many nations who allied to prevent tyrannical powers from usurping national and international governing authority. Since 1990 the United States has been involved with conflicts in Eastern Europe and the middle east, which have questionable motives. Oil (maybe other resources too), strategic geographical positions, political and economic influence, and isolated economic prosperity are a few of the reasons for these wars and conflicts.

Our species is inherently inclined to be compassionate. This is due to our subconscious understanding that our species is more likely to survive, if our overall number is greater (as population size increase so does our statistical probability of survival. Therefore, these irrational, and unethical conflicts and wars the United States Government, in association with the Central Intelligence Agency, have cause a mental dilemma for anyone witnessing these events.
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline
1-800-273-TALK (1-800-273-8255)
[United States ONLY]

The stagnation of wages, coupled with the inflation of costs for goods and services only strengthens the stressors endured by individuals already afflicted by this Philosophy of War adopted by the United States of America.

Some of you may not know this already; I once succumbed to the overwhelming power of apathy insomuch this life did not seem worth living. The aforementioned ideas, in conjunction with my desire for freedom from my own suffering (the human condition), stirred a passion to choose suicide. I was lucky. Friends and loved ones retaught me the value of life, and years of therapy rehabilitated me into the person I am today.

"If God does not exist, then all will is mine, and I am obliged to proclaim self-will."  Alexei Nilych Kirillov
            - The Possessed (Demons) by Fyodor Dostoyevksy

“Suicide is man's way of telling God, 'You can't fire me - I quit.'”
            - Bill Maher

What are the consequences of such an action?

According to the CDC:

Costs to Society: The following estimates are based on 2010 CDC data and refer to people age 10 and over.2
·         Suicide costs society over $44.6 billion a year in combined medical and work loss costs.
·         The average suicide costs $1,164,499.

Survivors: A survivor of suicide is a family member or friend of a person who died by suicide.
·         Surviving the loss of loved one to suicide is a risk factor for suicide.3
·         Surviving family members and close friends are deeply impacted by each suicide and experience a range of complex grief reactions including, guilt, anger, abandonment, denial, helplessness, and shock.4,5
·         No exact figure exists, but it is estimated that a median of between 6 and 32 survivors exist for each suicide, depending on the definition used.6
·         According to another estimate, approximately 7% of the U.S. population knew someone who died of suicide during the past 12 months.7


National Suicide Prevention Lifeline
1-800-273-TALK (1-800-273-8255)
[United States ONLY]

“When you’re young and healthy you can plan on Monday to commit suicide, and by Wednesday you’re laughing again.”
 – Marilyn Monroe


What is the Impact of Suicide within the United States?

“We look for the sermon in the suicide, for the social or moral lesson in the murder of five. We interpret what we see, select the most workable of the multiple choices.”
-Joan Didion

Each year, more than 39,000 Americans end their own lives, nearly 500,000 people are treated in U.S. emergency departments for self-inflicted injuries, and 1 million adults report making a suicide attempt. Many more people struggle with thoughts of suicide.

Suicide is a serious public health problem that affects people of all ages. It is the 10th leading cause of death for Americans overall and the second leading cause of death among adolescents and young adults aged 15-29. Suicide and suicidal behavior can have devastating effects on individuals, families, schools and communities.

Here is a link to prevention strategies listed on the CDC website:
“Did you really want to die? No one commits suicide because they want to die. Then why do they do it? Because they want to stop the pain.”
– Tiffanie DeBartolo

Buddhism is a philosophy which also helped me on my path to recovery. The First Noble Truth is that life is Suffering; the Second Noble Truth is to determine the cause of Suffering; The Third Noble Truth is the End of Suffering; and the Fourth Noble Truth is Attainment of the End of Suffering. The eight steps to achieve the Fourth Noble Truth are Right Understanding, Right Thought, Right Speech, Right Action, Right Livelihood, Right Effort, Right Mindfulness and Right Concentration. Three themes govern your eight steps: good moral conduct (Understanding, Thought, Speech), meditation and mental development (Action, Livelihood, Effort) , wisdom or insight (Mindfulness and Concentration).




National Suicide Prevention Lifeline
1-800-273-TALK (1-800-273-8255)
[United States ONLY]

Suffering is a sensation all of us endure- psychological and physiological. People often tell me how positive I have become, and all I can do is be grateful for all of those who suffered before me, and left their knowledge of how to understand it, and more importantly, benefit from your suffering. Life, both the negative and positive, is an experience so abstract it should not even exist. This is why after learning of Buddhism I try my best to appreciate every experience I live.

“No law can give or take away the choice to commit suicide.”
-Maggie Gallagher

It is our responsibility to educate and empower our fellow people to live healthy and positive lives. We cannot expect congress to act on our behalf. We must act. You and I are the only people who can choose to address this issue. In doing so we can begin to address all of the issues that are correlated to our mental health.

First and foremost, we must stop using the terminology “commit or committed”. This is the linguistic equivalent of calling someone insane, and when either is used it can cause the listener to equate the act with someone who committed murder or rape. These people chose their end. Never forget that. Remember the words you choose to use affect those who hear the sounds.

Second, we must stop stigmatizing those who suggest they might be depressed, overly anxious, or state they cannot handle the stressors of their life; this can be exemplified with body language, as much as speech. People go to school for many years to learn how to rehabilitate those who are afflicted with a mental illness. Many times our internal dialogue convinces us our struggle is an individual form of suffering, that no one could ever understand. This ideation is debilitating, and often prevents the tormented from seeking help. Be aware of those around you, and assist those you see with symptoms by directing them to the help they need.

Third, we must create a national system of reliable statistical information so that we can determine where funding is most needed. This leads to my final point.




National Suicide Prevention Lifeline
1-800-273-TALK (1-800-273-8255)
[United States ONLY]

Finally, we must address government spending. This will be the most difficult because of the divisive nature of politics, and the asinine behaviors and ideologies of our current senators and congressman. We need new people, within the affected demographics to sound their collective voices so that we can create positive change in this country.


Other Useful Information:

Protective Factors
·         Effective clinical care for mental, physical, and substance abuse disorders
·         Easy access to a variety of clinical interventions and support for help seeking
·         Family and community support (connectedness)
·         Support from ongoing medical and mental health care relationships
·         Skills in problem solving, conflict resolution, and nonviolent ways of handling disputes
·         Cultural and religious beliefs that discourage suicide and support instincts for self-preservation
The following information is the Mental Health Ranking of the States of the United States of America: http://www.mentalhealthamerica.net/issues/ranking-states

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline
1-800-273-TALK (1-800-273-8255)
[United States ONLY]

Here is a link to the World Health Organization Chart documenting mental health and suicide rates: http://gamapserver.who.int/gho/interactive_charts/mental_health/suicide_rates/atlas.html



This is dedicated to all of the flowers who wilted, and cast aside their petals too soon. I wish upon these departed people the peace and tranquility their tormented souls craved. I send you my love.


- Laron